hello friends i am kim and a addict.. i am in a diema today my very best friend is still out there using. i have her come and do errands for me, i think i am enabling her, i am trying not to judge her because i am no saint. but on the other hand i think iam going to let her go for now because i have to take care of my recovery, and i may subconsciently wanting to use. i havent used but i think i need to let this friend go until she gets into a strong recovery. i would like input on this and am i a bad person to let her go? i hurt so much over this that i am crying typing this. lol. i want to be a inspiration to her cuz i am doing so well, but i see it going so quickly if i continue this frinedship, i am afraid to be with her because the cops are always stopping her. thanks you for letting me share.
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Hey Kim,I am an addict named Mike,good to see you again! Some of the hardest things we ever had to do was to remove ourselves from people,places and things..We are creatures of habit and I remember when I first got clean('84) I didnt know what I was going to do.i DIDNT KNOW ANYONE WHO WASN'T USING,IT HAD BEEN 25 YEARS OF MY LIFE AND i WAS STILL WORKING IN A BAND WHERE HALF THE MEMBERS WERE STILL GETTING HIGH....I believe that you also may be aware I have a now 24 year old son ,who is a hard core heroin addict,since around 17 and wreaked havoc in our lives for many years.Rocked my foundation with overdoses,roberries,jail,and even brought back to life from drug induced shock.Bills,hospitals ,institutions because he was in the gap 17-20 parents still responsible.Bottom line through God's grace( I also not only am an active member of NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS but Nar-ANON also..I had to learn to love him from a distance,"detach with love' and continue reenforcing my own recovery.We mean well but we continue to enable and cause more harm unwittingly.Honesty is the antidote to our diseased thinking.You could suggest to your friend that unless she seeks help to stop using you will have to distance tyourself for your own safety.We do recover from a seemingly hopless state of body and mind but it is based on a fit spiritual condition and applying spiritual principles in our lives.As you ar aware we can be dipped in oil,prayed over,given accupuncture,and many other scenarios but we must come to the admission and surrender as our first step to start the healing.Love the addict not the disease,it will be difficult but each must have their own fall.For most of us our bottom need only been the point where we choose to stop digging.I'll keep you in prayer and In support.SOMEDAY YOUR FRIEND MAY TELL YOU THE BEST THING YOU EVER DID WAS LET HER FIND HER OWN WAY........anyway enough philosophy ,stay God centered and in the solution.till we talk again peace!!
MIKE F
hey thanks my friend mike.... i appreciate that... i too have a son who was a full blown speed addict however thank you to the state of califorinia prison system he just did it once but once was enough thank you lord... but i will keep your son in my prayers my son has come along way too, but with his mom and dad in recovery, i think we set the ground work, so i know there is ALWAYS HOPE.. thanks for your support...
hi kim, thanks for sharing. about your very best friend, you said "i think i am going to let her go for now because i need to focus on my recovery....." i think you should follow your recovery instincts & "let her go" and let God help her. "for now" = hope. hope that she will learn from your strength and experience and gain a willingness to 'make a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him" it wil be tough emotionally, but maybe not as tough as being around a using friend and fighting cravings and temtation!! thanks 4 letting me share donnamichelle
hi donnamichelle and welcome to the website my name is kim. and thank you so much for your knowledge on this, and thanks for the hope.