I'm looking for some advice, I think some of my questions may be silly, however I would like to be supportive. I recently started dating a great guy (2 months) who is currently living in a sober house and he has been 'clean' for the past year. His first year of sobriety is coming up, and I dont know if I should plan something for his accomplishment? Or if that would be uncomfortable for him?
I'm so proud of him, and I hope to have a long term relationship with him. Going to meetings etc. are very important to him and he has a great support system in place. I would like to add to his support system, but I am unsure how to at times. The majority of people in his life have gone through, or are also recovering and can relate to feelings, emotions etc. I know that I can never replace (nor do I want to) those relationships, I don't want to compete with that, but would like to also be someone he can feel comfortable talking about that aspect of his life with. Any advice or suggestions would be much appreciated.
today is the next step in the journey......paw
Hi Meg!
You could do a small get together if you want to. I think I would let him get his medallion/medal/chip (Everyone calls it something different) by himself. Then tell him you want to do something with him that day. You can still do the movie as Pat suggested. You could go out for Ice cream or coffee, take him out to dinner, go play pool, walk around the lake. Just let him know you are proud of him. I go out for Ice cream with my family.
Let us know what you decide!
Ann
I would have a PARTY! I do every chance I get as do my friends. Addicts love a reason to party so what better reason than to celebrate an anniversary, especially the first one. I do know that someone will disagree and choose instead to keep things low key. Either way is best as it has to fit for you and him.
I am really here because of my relationship. I finally learned that if something is on someone else's mind, they will share it if only it becomes important enough for them I get impatient and ask questions, set my self up and get disappointed and hurt. I stopped asking for it and now do not get it.
I am determined to get my new tpy operable, so here goes video response again!
vERY COOL THANKS ,tHANKS FOR PUTTING THIS FORUM TOGHETHER SO WE CAN SHArE OUR esh WITH EACH OTHER IN A LOVING AND CARING MANNER!..sorry for caps cant type and look at screen at same time.progress not perfection working here.:)
MIKE F
Hi! I guess he will appreciate a simple get-together with his sober friends to celebrate his accomplishment. Just never forget to give him the warmest hug and the most loving smile on that day. Maybe a well-cooked dinner and a hand-made card with words of encouragement and unconditional love will really touch him.