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Creating a positive and healthy support network in my life!!!!

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UROCKGirl Posted: Sat, Dec 11 2010 11:54 PM

I am a single mom of three amazing boys.  I have been in recovery for the past two years.  I divorced my husband last year due to his alcoholism.  I am doing well in recovery but struggle with feeling alone in my life due to all my responsibilities and really never developing a positive support system of positive healthy people in my life since being an adult.  I know there are people out there just like me who are working hard for their family and continuing to have internal growth due to their recovery program.  What does it take to build a healthy positive support system of good friends???? 

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paw replied on Sun, Dec 12 2010 11:44 PM

Hi and welcome to the site.. First of all you have to go out.  People aren't going to read your mind and say, "HEY, she wants company, let's go over and see her."  Do you attend meetings?  Go to church?  Are your kids in daycare that you may be able to set up a play date for them and stay for a few minutes or more and talk with their mother. Are they in school where you may be able to go on field trips with them, or volunteer in their class.  Congrats on your sobriety and putting it first in your life although I'm sorry to hear that you had to split with your husband.  Let us know how it goes with you.  Feel free to email or message me or others on site anytime.  We're here for one another.

today is the next step in the journey......paw

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ANN replied on Mon, Dec 13 2010 4:12 PM

Hi there!

  That was the problem I had when I was getting sober.  People were older than I and had families to take care of and keep them busy.  You just have to keep trying.  You don't have to constantly go to the same meeting.  Try different ones, and ask for phone lists at the meetings.  Make a little effort and call people.  Friends aren't the most important thing in my life though.  I started my own family.  Reach out if you want to talk and reach out if you need help!  Offer to give someone a ride to a meeting.  Stay before or after meetings and talk to people.

  As Pat said, you can talk to any of us when you want/need to.

  The best thing to do is work on yourself and your sons.  People won't like me saying this, but friends can get kind-of needy and demanding!

Peace be with you!

Ann

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