I am a single father of a 16 yearl old girl....I love her more than thing in this world.....I am an alcoholic....I have been drinking now for 20 years....I can't stop!!!! I try like hell and i lose the battle everytime....I cannot check into a rehab center Because i need my job.... ICant run to family because they have there own issues...I'm sick of this and it's gotta stop before i'm dead....I need some advice?I am so sick of this feeling of detox i do it atleast twice a month and everytime it gets worse....Please someone help me with some good advice? Thank you
I am currently in something called Daytox - it's more flexible than residential treatment, as you can come between certain hours and thus hold a job while "detoxing". Is there anything comparable in your area? Talking to your doctor about your options would be best for your health and safety.
today is the next step in the journey......paw
Hello jkady! Welcome to the forum.I also am an addict and I drank and drugged for 25 years until I finally surrendered.Although you say you need your job,if your life is unmanageable and you are powerless over your addiction I believe that is most important issue you may want to tackle above all other things.This disease will eventually lead you to jails ,institutions or death..You love you daughter more than anything else in the world and there is the dilemma in a sense.You will have to learn to love yourself enough to get help you need.Have you tried AA or thought about a sponsor?You can stop! but it takes work,and its one day at a time.If you are in jail or dead your job wont really matter anyway.Total surrender is necessary and then you can ask yourself do you believe now or are you willing to believe in a higher power than yourself? If so,you can be on your way to putting your trust in something other than you!!!We dont realy give advise we suggest what worked for us and how we attained our clean/sober time.I would definitely suggest doing what you need to do(may be Detox,attending program and getting honest with yourself on the consequences of "business as usual".This disease is mental,physical and spiritual and needs your full attention!I believe down deep you know you have to surrender as you are reachiing out,some of us never made it to that stage.The fears of projection(how can I live without alcohol,thats all I know)what about my friends(are they really friends)I cant party again(believe it or not people in recovery do party,they just dont use)and all these thoughts can be addressed "one day at a time"A story I heard an addict share how she addresses her projection issues, she says"I tell myself Im going to get high tomorrow,but for today I just wont use.Twenty years later ,still clean and sober she lives her life like that!Whatever it takes.Didnt mean to be so lonf winded,but I do care and in my process of recovery my literature tells me in our 5th tradition,that an addict ,any addict can stop using drugs, lose the desire to use and find a new way to live.,Alcohol is a drug!!!!Give yourself a break and I'll keep you in prayer,Keep coming back,many here on this blessed site willing to offer their strength ,hope and experience.Tomorrow is Thanksgiving day,but for most here on this forum everyday is thanksgiving in recovery,please come and join us.Have a great holiday
MIKE F
Thank you so much...I am going to make some changes in my life...I want it so bad and i'm going too...
What is Daytox? I'm not sure if we have anything like that here....But i'm going to find out soon...
Yes i want's the help so bad...The next 72 hours a gonna be tuff but i know this will be the easy part...Thank you again and i will stay intouch...
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ok ...you know about the drinking is not good for you,you want to leave this bad habits so you just go through ...and take a solution ..
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Jlkady,
Were you able to find the help you were looking for?
Living a happy, joyous, and free life by embracing the mind, body, and spirit.
Hi im also an alcoholic and have been for about 10yrs, i can try and help you as i know how you feel. I have no children because each women i meet alcohol ruins the relationship and so hasn't given me a chance.
Do you binge drink or do you drink continuously everyday?
Hi and thank you for your reply... I pretty much dring everyday untill i get very ill...My body rufuses to allow and more alcohol enter it...Then i detox again for 4 or 5 days...Then i start to eat again slowly again untill i feel better...Thrn i start all over...So tired of this...I will drink for three days strait with no food at all...Smoke up a storm and then get very sick..My body is so tired and i feel like i am losing my mind half of the time...I am trying to gather some support and so badly wanna stop...It is very hard...
Thanx for sharing
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Hey there -- welcome back. Make the first step by looking for a meeting in your area. There are a lot of people there that will be more than willing to share how they got sober. The face to face meetings are extremely helpful in recovery, and many of us went day after day until we built our own support.
Hi,
There are some drug rehab centers for further advice.