Hello everyone! have had my head stuck where the sun dont shine last week and have been isolating.NEVER GOOD FOR AN ADDICT!!!.Same saga ,too much contact,Eric arrested last saturday 3 possession charges,wednesday arrested again in town of poughkeepsie,3 more misdemeanor charges,possession of stolen goods.Because wh have seen him sporatically as he has been living in his car(my ins/reg) we thought he was doing okay,still doing nite time job making restitution payments into the house for previous thefts.Wrong,his car was in impound from wednesday arrest,so we let him take our nissan(hello!!)to do paperroute,says he was dope sick and somebody ran stop sign ,crashed the only good thing we got.He tells us he is using almost 2 bundles dope a day )15-20 dime bags and stealing to support his habit.We took his car(no payments on it yet,its a clunker)but my insurance registration and told him he has to either go to jail,we'll institute an old charge that bank said we could do anytime or get help.He admitted himself today to mental health ward in St Francis hospital ,locked ward for detox and psych care.I told him to tell them he is homeles and he'll have to find somewhere to stay.We made bad decisions and continued to enable him even after all the "life" experience I have and the programming that i attend(NARANON)This disease of co-dependency is kickin our butts.I know that God has a plan for all this and I am trying to stay focused but I have been feeling i am not "hard core" enough.I cant get back the decisions that we made and I can only deal with this 24 but My strength has been shaken.YOU KNOW"WE ADMITTED WE WERE POWERLESS AND OUR LIVES HAD BECOME UNMANAGEABLE!!!(STEP1) we also believe that in our interaction with him he robbed us again of a charge card and like $30.00.Of course he denied it.IRONICALLY 2 DAYS LATER WHEN HE KNEW THE CHARGE CARD WAS STOPPED,IT MIRACULOUSLY SHOWED UP IN MY WIFES JACKET POCKET<NEVER WOULD HAVE PUT IT THERE..anyway ,thats what i needed to share today.I missed a couple of my NA MEETINGS.,but quickly got back,shared with my support group and called my sponsor.For some funny reason I guess I figured that i have been in recovery for so long that my decisions were aLLl cool>WRONG!!!!!Im a sick pup in this matter of codependency and know that I must work even harder.It was common to make bad decisions while active but now!!! oh yeah!!This disease is cunning,baffling and insidious!!I am back on track now somewhat ,out of isolation ,a bad ,dark place to be and still knowing that the God of my understanding is workin this all out.I needed to share this and free myself..I welcome all newcomers and hope everyone is well and living for today.As always thanks for being here,when we battle life on lifes terms it nice to have a "family ' to come to.We do not battle any single drug or mind altering mood changing substances we battle the disease of ADDICTION,in all its forms....I wish you all peace and will talk to you on the rebound!
MIKE F
Mike,
Busy share! You have a lot of things going on.
Are you doing any codependency meetings, something that might help you to see things for what they are?
Eric is where he should be. Getting help. Trying to make things better for himself. Definitely, though, I wouldn't hesitate to get the authorities involved. A crime is a crime is a crime, regardless of whom you steal from. In the end, this is the type of help that he might need (legal). Sometimes the legal system can be the best protectant.
All in all, you did the right thing! You went back to your support group for advice. Good thinking.
You know my e-mail. I am finishing up school and my schedule is pretty hectic so I show up on here sporadically. However, my e-mail is directly on my phone, so I am pretty quick to respond there!!!
Take care of yourself,
Clint
Living a happy, joyous, and free life by embracing the mind, body, and spirit.
today is the next step in the journey......paw
Hey Clint,thanks for support,yeah part of my "letdown" is I have been faithfully every week for almost 3 years attending NARANON ALSO.a fellowship similar to NA only for parents and friends of addicts.I know all the 'rules" but still stayed too close...Guess thats why we say 'keep coming back!!.hope you are well and thanks again for being part of 'family ' here..peace
Hey Paw GOOD TO SEE YOU! I always need to share where I m at ,its just not that easy thru the years of recovery for me until i really decided to 'work the program"Like I told Clint We didnt make good decisions but its days ago ,cant get it back and have to stay in 'this day"Im sure during my active years I made many "bad" decisions like almost 25 years of them!!'I'll keep comin back! glad you are here for all of us and we are here for you.wish you peace and serenity ,talk to you on the rebound...Been bow season for 3 days now and I been in my tree for about 3 total hours.hopefully tonite or back tomorrow morning before work,I may just want to sit there and watch the squirrels load up there houses!! quality time to reflect... peace mike
Mike you sound great, It's not easy dealing with close friends and family when it comes to Addiction, sometimes we need a neutral party to intervene because we , being to close in relation to the suffering person are incapable of taking the sometimes drastic measures that are required to actually show the person that we mean business. as harsh as it my seem , I have to agree with Clint if this doesn't pan out , which i will pray that it does, you just might have to get the legal system involved if absolutely nessesary. you sound really healthy and bouncing it off others is a definite sign of that. Good luck with the hunting.
Thanks for sharing that!
Hey Paw!
Finally got back in my tree tonite.Been watching a small doe with 2 little babies prancing around my stand.4 pointer ,only out in dark right now,will be around chasing soon,,rut around early November here in dutchess county.Felt good to sit and watch the leaves fall and the Squirrels go to work.Last year there were 2 coyotes around my main stand,an adult and a youngin! Havent seen any sign this year but only out sporadically.Finishing my take from last year left in my freezer.Great imagery for me from your post.Lst year I actually took and 8 pointer early bow season ,around 75 degrees ,laying in the brush(too hot)bout an 8 yard shot.Was amazed to get so close without buck spookin or catchin wind of me.Anyway geittin in a little of mother natures serenity and some quality alone time.Feel like Hiawatha and lovin it!.Hope you are well and doing things you like to do...peace mike