Good evening from the westcoast! Its been quite awhile since I've been a regular on site. I think of the community often, and am grateful to be checking in tonight. By the grace and guidance of my Higher Power, I am sane and sober today. 12 step recovery has changed my life ~ The Promises have ALL come true, one day at a time. I have a Sponsor, I sponsor other women, serve on (2) committees, and wake with an attitude of grattiude each day, eager to take the journey my HP has in store.I could have never imagined 5 1/2 years ago when I wanted to die, that my life was just beginning. Willingness and hope were my first footsteps. Welcome and HELLO to all Newcomers. And a big hug to those who remember me!
XO Jhe T.
Great to hear from you!! And congrats on that 5 1/2 years of wonderful living. Being busy is something you enjoy so it sounds like life is good. I'm happy for you and again welcome back....
today is the next step in the journey......paw
Hello Jhe T!
It is nice to hear from you!
Ann
Hello! Jhe T
Welcome back! Continue the "miracle" Peace
MIKE F
Hello Jhe T. Good to hear from you and glad that you are doing well. 12 Step Recovery works! We all are living proof. Take care!
Hugs and blessings to you.
Cheryl
Hey, you! I was thinking about you earlier today. You make me smile. Take it easy! Me
Living a happy, joyous, and free life by embracing the mind, body, and spirit.
What a gift to hear from so many of you! May the rest of your Sunday be blessed and filled with gratitude.
Jhe T.
I know the a forever recovery information was a few months ago-but I was looking up reviews for it and came across this site. We are looking into it for my sister who has a 20 year history of prescription drug abuse. She tried to commit suicide last week and still won't admit she has a problem. i have dealt with this a long time so I am used to her trying to minimize events when they start to lead in the direction of her getting help. She has been to rehab numerous times and either leaves when she is told something she doesn't want to hear or she snows her counselor for the required 30 days and then goes back to her normal life. She actually will move out of a state to get to "fresh" ER's and doctors for more drugs. Right now she is in an abusive relationship -second marriage and lives in GA-I am in OK. She has a 14 yr old daughter ( I'll call her Alice) that thankfully her ex has custody of. He has decided they should no longer be alone together and this was at the request of Alice as she is tired of seeing her mom passed out. All hell has broke out now and ofcourse me and my parents are getting the full on addict tirade-nasty phone calls, e-mails etc. We would like to supply her with a plane ticket to a rehab and pay for her stay-just send it to her and pray she makes the right choice. She needs long term-preferrably 4-6 months of intense rehab as the 30-40 day ones were too short. LOOOONG story short we found a forever recovery online and thought it looked nice-until I read a few reveiws on your site. I'm a little nervous now. Any other ideas out there? We are pretty much willing to go to any state.
Thank you so much
SJK, welcome to the site. This is only my humble opinion, but under NO circumstances would I give her any money what so ever. I would pay it direct to the facility and or airline, etc. I would also quit taking her phone calls unless she's sober, I would not take her anywhere unless it was to rehab, a meeting, or a hospital. I would not let her stay in my house and I think it's a great decision on 'Alice's' part to want to stay with her Dad. She's old enough to make that choice.
The only thing I can tell you to do with a place is to research it. Do you attend any meetings for yourself or your family? If so, I'm sure someone there would have some suggestions as to a place that is on the up and up. Alanon, Naranon, CODA or Families Anonymous. Even a clergy might be able to direct you. There's a directory here on site, but again, you'll have to research it for her individual needs.
If you want to talk, or vent, we're here for you. Please let us know how it goes. And get some support for yourself. The more knowledge you have the better you'll be able to cope.
Welcome to the site.
Please feel free to share all you want -- and keep coming back. We are glad you joined us. Clint
Hello SJK!
Welcome to this site! Are you able to go visit the place before putting her in there? That is the only way to really know if a place is good or not, checking it out for yourself!
Keep coming back!
thanks for the welcome. I just tried to submit a post and i think accidentally deleted it-but if not, sorry for the double post! We have learned through trial and error to never give my sister money. We would only pay directly to the facility. I just feel bad telling her to get help, but not helping her make it possible. Her husband does not want her to get help and supplies her pills.(ironically he is a pharmacist ) She takes care of his two kids so he needs her there. She really has no one around her that will help her. I feel if she had the "ticket" to rehab in her hand she may be more likely to get help? She lives out in the country and her husband doesn't give her a dime for anything. I have to send her a phone that is hers and is debating if i should write a letter with it? She hates me right now. I need to protect her daughter from her though and I would rather she take her anger out on me than on her daughter.
Thanks for the input.......
Yeah I would agree with you on the anger issue. Maybe you'll find a place that's closer to you that you could put her in that would allow less of an impact on her with the home pharmacy. Although I certainly understand not wanting to get into the middle of a relationship. Let us know.
I guess my fear is that she would leave the facility and show up on my door step if she were in the same state. Unfortunately, i don't think i am strong enough to turn her away. I still have this phone to send her and I am so afraid that once I send it I will no longer have any connection to her and that makes me so sad. Even though she has put us all through hell and back I still love her and want her to get better. I just don't know how to help.