Hi everyone,
Thank you for your replies to my "Relationship in need of an honest opinion" post. I rec'd a letter from my bf today and he apoligized for not contacting me on the Fourth and proceeded to inform me that a staff worker at the facility where he is said to him that he (staff worker) was going to nut in his mouth! Apparently, they had just finished with a session group and the guys were talking amongst each other and the staff worker informed them to move on. My bf told him that they were just talking and bonding. The staff worker got angry and he and my bf exchanged words and the worker ended up saying that to him. He mentioned that he was so hurt and angry and embarassed but he stayed calm and he and 2 others immediately went to inform a supervisor. He mentioned he also contacted an alumni resource person who was furious at hearing the situation.
I've written a reply letter to him telling him that I was very proud of him for handling the situation in the manner he did. I also advised him to maintain a logbook noting any situations that arise in a nature that is disrepectful and non-professional.
Aren't staff workers trained and continuosly trained on policy and procedures on their conductivity when dealing with clients? Like my bf said that is clearly a form of sexual harassment. Clients are there to be helped not mentally bashed.
Please share your thoughts...
You're right in that they are trained to help. I was not in a rehab, but even in detox we weren't allowed to congregate in the halls or group up at tables unless it was meal time, a recess from 'classes', (if you will), or in the evening right before bed. We really were structured in there.
Now, I'm not trying to say that your boyfriend was right or wrong in gathering with the guys to bond and talk, but if they were scheduled to be doing something else, I understand the staff asking them to move on. And he/she wouldn't want a patient to talk back. But when that does happen the staff should be handling it with courtesy and professionalism.
Keeping a log of happenings and reporting it is the proper thing for him to do. It's good that he handled it the way he did. Stay in touch.
today is the next step in the journey......paw
Hello,
i would just let this go. He doesn't need to focus on the rights and wrongs of rehab. He is already there and he needs to make the best out of the situation. Doing a log book and looking for errors might keep him preoccupied and focusing on other things.
Glad you found us. Clint
Living a happy, joyous, and free life by embracing the mind, body, and spirit.
I agree Clint. He is focused and is remaining positive. I spoke with his mother today and she told me that his conselor is very happy with his progress and he is doing better then expected. It just concerns me because he is there for help and the last thing anyone needs is to be spoken to in such an unprofessional manner especially by a rehabs staff member.
Thanks for commenting...
Good to hear about his progress.
From my own experience, rehab staff members could be just leaving a rehab facility themselves. Some of us remain sick, and some of us get help. Luckily he is doing what he needs to do. Let's focus on that!
Thanks for coming back and sharing. C
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