I am in need of assistance asap! We flew my son to the Ft. Laurderdale area last night to a Sober living type of living arrangement. It IS NOT what we thought. He needs a little more structure than what is being offered. The residents were up all night, until 4am, and it is way to laid back. It just left a detox program yesterday. Any suggestions recomendations?
Welcome to the site. Email Jon@sober.com or check the directory here on site. If nothing there strikes you fancy, google some places and start calling. I'm sorry I can't help you not being from the area myself. Please let us know how you did though.
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Did you ever find a sober living facility in FLL? My son is also in FLL area and trying to find a reasonably priced sober living facility.
He is also in a facility where they are mostly on ankle bracelets, older and also up all night. Trying to find him a place asap.
Thanks.... Also looking for suggestions....
I would do some research and request to speak to some residents. My son was 19 yrs old when we took the word of the inpatient team that he go to halfway house in Delray, Florida. We were told there was structure, employment assistance, drug testing. Basically my son had a place to live(rent $185.00/wk) and was tested randomly. The only good thing.........he went to meetings and remained sober. There was a change in male supervisor within first month........new male supervisor had no experience, he did not supervise, he went missing for days at a time. Sonr reported and was confirmed that there were manay guys using/relapsing and male supervisor either ignored the situation or could not be located.
My husband and I realized son was not working and not paying rent........the halfway house had no idea, son was behind in rent approximately $700.00 (supposed to get kicke out if 2 wks behind). I had to tell the male manager that son was not working.....he did not beleive me....even though rent was behind.
Son is now home ...7 months clean and sober, continue to attend meetings.
Research...........research..........research
Good advice.
I can definitely attest to researching the place. You need to know what is there before you send your son there. I always recommend calling others in the area who are familiar with this type of environment (Therapists, church leaders, drug counselors, etc.)
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My bf is currently at the The Renaissance Institute of Palm Beach. The Renaissance is very structured and they have a very well layed out program. Take a look at the website especially the treatment schedule which is located under treatment services.
http://www.caronrenaissance.org/
Thanks for sharing!
How does the referral process work with aftercare? When I was in treatment, we were recommended a place to go by our counselors. People were sent to different places, and some would even go together. But it just depended upon a lot of things: structure, need to work, finances, etc.
So for those of you who have someone now in a sober living facility, do you find it yourself? Or are you referred to a place by the treatment center? Just curious ...
As far as my bf's situation is concerned it's my understanding that the counselor will help identify the best aftercare program in our area. When he first went in he was in the institute's main location which is in Philadelphia. He spent 30 days there to detox, after that point his counselor in Philadelphia recommended and referred him to the institute's affiliate location in Florida where they offer longer-term residential treatment.
I sure hope it works out for him. Now don't forget to take care of you. That's important. I said in another post and I'll say it again, you're worth it and you have a life too.
Find a structured sober living in the Ft. Lauderdale area asap is the title of the this comment ment.....i really agree to your description and its really very nice and i also appericiated it..because the yours wife is also very good understandble...
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Sorry I never got back on here although I was reading the responses. Very long week! Yes, I did find my son a facility in Margate called Fellowship Living that was perfect for him, very nice with a great reputation. The program Director was amazing and very helpful. Unfortunatley, after everything I did to get him there from the Phila. area directly from inpatient detox, he left on Saturday evening after only one week. He flew back to NJ without any warning. He agreed to stay for 30 days and I told him if he left, he was leaving on his own and I would not help him any more. It has been 2 years of hell with him and I keep digging him out of the black hole and bringing him back to reality. So he is back in NJ on his own, I do not know where he is staying but he keeps texting me and calling me but I am not taking his calls per the advice a the director from the Margate facility. He said if I keep pulling him out of the gutter, he will just keep falling back in time after time. I was told that "strangers" need to get him out of the gutter so my son realizes his family is not going to help him anymore. Hardest thing in world to do and I hope and pray I am doing the right thing. If you believe in prayer, please pray for my son and all addicts that are not ready for help.
It's got to be a real tough thing to do, but I'm so proud of you for standing your ground. It's his addiction and he needs to own it. Find an outlet for yourself and take care of you. I'm glad you stopped back. We're here for you.
Hello PAmom414!
I think you are doing the right thing. When he is ready he will find the help he needs. Take care of yourself! We are here if you need to talk.
Keep coming back!
Ann
Another update on my tough love stance (although NOT easy). He called and texted dozens of times and I will not respond and he has also reached out to other family members and we are not answering him. He feels totally abandandoned for the first time in his life. He stated many things in his text, one being that he doesn't care if he dies...scary stuff. Apparantley he slept in his car the last 2 nights, he is penniless and has no place to go. For the first time EVER, I am not bailing him out. I have paid his rent for the last 2 years and I was always getting him out of jams and I never had the heart to turn my back on him.
The director of the facility that he left reached out to him this afternoon and my son told him everyone hates him here and he has no place to go and he is living on the street. My son is flying back to Florida this evening and going into the treatment facility! He sold his TV for the ticket and his Dad (my ex) is driving him to airport. Hopefully my son has finally hit rock bottom and will start the recovery process.
I only wish I did this tough Love stuff a long time ago! I know there is a long road ahead but I pray this is the beginning of his recovery.
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