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"It's Not What You Think, It's What You Feel...."

2010-03-15T11:01:00Z

RelationshipVision is pleased to announce a collaboration with Embracing Change from the UK. Christian Pankhurst, the President of Embracing Change will be offering his home study program, "It's not what you think, ...it's what you feel." If you have ever felt stuck in a rut or really wanted to make changes in your life but struggled to make those changes stick, then go watch this great video now. In fact, it's not just about breaking 'bad' habits, it's about how...(read more)

Finding True Love Through Intimacy

2009-12-18T13:33:00Z

Finding True Love Through Intimacy By Daniel Linder MFT A lot of people have been asking about true love; is there such a thing; if so, what is it? Is it attainable; if so, how attainable is it? If it were just love, I wouldn't have so much difficulty. But, true love? Talking about true love is risky business. I can imagine taking a poll, going around asking people wh....( Read full article... ) or visit: http://relationshipvision.com/article/finding-true-love-through-intimacy...(read more)

Me, You, Us - Entering the Sacred Space of Co-creation

2009-12-18T13:31:00Z

Intimacy is something we all want, yet it remains elusive, rare and mysterious. Some people have intimate relationships, but most don't. Lack of relationship fulfillment is the norm. Many of us want to know how to establish an intimate relationship-from single people who are wondering why they are still single to those in relationships who want a healthier, more nourishing connection with their....( Read full article... ) or visit: http://relationshipvision.com/article/me-you-us-entering-the...(read more)

Diagnosing Addiction: The sooner addiction is detected the more favorable the prognosis.

2007-11-26T14:51:00Z

Diagnosing Addiction by Daniel Linder MA, MFT as featured in September, 2007 issue of Recovery Today. When it comes to treatment, “rule of thumb” is: The sooner addiction is detected the more favorable the prognosis. The goal is always to intervene as early as possible. The reasoning is simple – addiction worsens over time, related problems mount and it becomes more entrenched and impervious to treatment. However, more times than not, by the time the addict enters treatment, the...(read more)

"No Intimate Relationships During the First Year of Sobriety!"

2007-11-26T14:49:00Z

"No Intimate Relationships During the First Year of Sobriety!" by Daniel Linder MA, MFT, as featured in March 2007 issue of Recovery Today. Recovering addicts hear this all the time in 12-step programs. However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded. Many have a hard time accepting that a hiatus from intimate relationships is necessary. In their minds, dating and new relationships seem benign. “As long as I’m not using and we’re not using and are in a program, I’m...(read more)

Question regarding "Isn't your Relationship Model of Addiction just a summary for co-dependency?"

2007-11-26T13:20:00Z

From an anonymous author: Isn't your Relationship Model of Addiction just a summary for codependency? A relationship model of addiction seems to put under the microscope the various relationships of subject and source ... subject and subject, for example, addict and gambling, addict to addict. Isn't all human behavior based on a relationship model? I suppose it is interesting that this can be seen as new news, but I thought that this was how things were all along. For instance, I used to...(read more)

Question regarding "Relationship with a Source of Relief?"

2007-11-26T13:10:00Z

from an anonymous author: I appreciate your efforts in writing about this subject, I find it fascinating. You mentioned, "The ‘relief’ that the ‘relationship with a source of relief’ provides is from pain or frustration related to unmet emotional needs." This is interesting to wrap my mind around because I know of a few people, including myself, who struggled in their relationships with a notion of a Higher Power or a G-d. They are recovering devout people :) I say...(read more)

Introducing… The Relationship Model of Addiction

2007-11-26T13:00:00Z

As featured in the June, 2007 issue of Recovery Today In inherent limitation of the medical model is ignoring the fact that ‘pathological dependence’ implies that a relationship, one that is emotional and psychological in nature, has formed with the substance or activity (i.e. gambling, porn, etc.) The ‘pathological dependency’ is a pathological relationship, one in which there is continuous and increasing emotional involvement. The relationship with a source of relief that...(read more)